A bee in his bonnet...
Geez, early this week we are talking of *fiance VISAs and now we've moved into calling realtors in to look at the house and see what we need to do to make it viable to sell. Someone's got a bee in his bonnet and I'm not complaining. Truly, I'm just surprised. And ecstatic.
We're holding off inviting people to stay now, as we don't want to be beholden to someone's visit to the area. My friend coming in late July is the last agreed upon visit, if all goes well we'll be on our next adventure at that point. We are talking about a bit of travel before we head stateside - Argentina, Chile, Southeast Asia or South Africa (or maybe all) on our list before heading there.
There have been many talks lately about the fear of selling up, leaving himself with nothing in this very expensive city (hmmm... when I have heard this before? oh YES, it's when I did that for him!), just all the stuff that I've already gone through. I discussed with him my own reasoning - it's not a place he wants to live long term, whatever happens it will kick his butt in gear to do something rather than staying in one place and a place he doesn't really like at that. I said it's all about attitude. Opportunities being created and doors opening when another closes. I truly believe that, no matter how scary the jump is. You just have to do it.
The fact that we are now talking about selling the house makes me feel better, I realize. A small part of me wondered if he was willing to give as much as I did (not that it changes my feelings for him, I just wondered) and now I can see that he may well be. I want us to be free of these constraints and throw chance to wind and see where we end up. It's hard to do when one has something keeping you back. He keeps talking about lost money (by waiting another year, he'd surely make more on his house) and I keep saying I could've done the same. Homes in the Bay Area were increasing just as rapidly as here but at some point you just have to cut your losses (not even being losses but not another $10k I guess) and move on with your life. I want us to move on to ours together. Buy something together. You know the story.
It's all good though. I'll keep ya posted. More from my parents visit later. My parents met his, so you know that might have a story in it. LOL
We're holding off inviting people to stay now, as we don't want to be beholden to someone's visit to the area. My friend coming in late July is the last agreed upon visit, if all goes well we'll be on our next adventure at that point. We are talking about a bit of travel before we head stateside - Argentina, Chile, Southeast Asia or South Africa (or maybe all) on our list before heading there.
There have been many talks lately about the fear of selling up, leaving himself with nothing in this very expensive city (hmmm... when I have heard this before? oh YES, it's when I did that for him!), just all the stuff that I've already gone through. I discussed with him my own reasoning - it's not a place he wants to live long term, whatever happens it will kick his butt in gear to do something rather than staying in one place and a place he doesn't really like at that. I said it's all about attitude. Opportunities being created and doors opening when another closes. I truly believe that, no matter how scary the jump is. You just have to do it.
The fact that we are now talking about selling the house makes me feel better, I realize. A small part of me wondered if he was willing to give as much as I did (not that it changes my feelings for him, I just wondered) and now I can see that he may well be. I want us to be free of these constraints and throw chance to wind and see where we end up. It's hard to do when one has something keeping you back. He keeps talking about lost money (by waiting another year, he'd surely make more on his house) and I keep saying I could've done the same. Homes in the Bay Area were increasing just as rapidly as here but at some point you just have to cut your losses (not even being losses but not another $10k I guess) and move on with your life. I want us to move on to ours together. Buy something together. You know the story.
It's all good though. I'll keep ya posted. More from my parents visit later. My parents met his, so you know that might have a story in it. LOL
posted by grrltraveler at Friday, April 29, 2005
3 Comments:
Wow. Big news!
I hope this all works out for you. Good luck!
This is VERY exciting. I agree with you, you have to just jump in with both feet and take chances.
Everything DOES find a way of working out, ya know?
Lots of changes in your near future. Kind of fun, huh?
Wowie! You're one brave chica, dear! Will most definitely be stopping by to hear of your adventures and stuff!
You're right... sometimes you just gotta make the leap...
Hugs!
anonymous cnfg
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